Know where you stand

Assessments are mirrors, never verdicts. A score is a signal for exploration: what made it a 6 rather than a 4 or an 8 matters more than the number itself.

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Take it here: the Flourishing Scale

Eight statements, developed by Ed Diener and colleagues (2010), measuring the psychological resources of a life: meaning, relationships, engagement, competence, optimism. It is one of the most widely validated well-being measures in psychology, and short enough to retake monthly.

1 means strongly disagree, 7 means strongly agree. Answer from the last few weeks, honestly rather than aspirationally.

I lead a purposeful and meaningful life.

My social relationships are supportive and rewarding.

I am engaged and interested in my daily activities.

I actively contribute to the happiness and well-being of others.

I am competent and capable in the activities that are important to me.

I am a good person and live a good life.

I am optimistic about my future.

People respect me.

Flourishing Scale © Ed Diener et al., free to use with attribution: Diener et al. (2010), Social Indicators Research 97, 143-156.

Four exercises worth an evening

Stephen Covey built these into The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, and they remain some of the best role-discovery work ever written. No scores here. You generate everything, which is exactly why they work.

Roles and goals

Brainstorm every role you currently fill, then filter and combine until five to seven remain that genuinely define this phase of your life. Give each one goal.

The roles you land on are the ones your weekly practice is built to keep in balance.

The eulogy visualization

Imagine your own funeral, and what your family, a friend, a colleague, and someone from your community would honestly say about you. Write what you would want them to say. The gap between the two versions is your real to-do list.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy uses the same exercise: values become visible at the end in mind.

A personal mission statement

Write a short personal constitution: the values and principles you refuse to trade. Keep it where you plan your weeks and measure your daily responsibilities against it.

The time matrix

List everything you did this week and sort it into four quadrants: urgent and important, important without urgency, urgent without importance, neither. Most misaligned weeks live in quadrant three, urgent things that never mattered.

Where did the hours actually go, and which role paid for it?

The co-welfare audit

Six steps in fifteen minutes: score your five role spirals, find the waterline and the lever, name the erosions, then ask someone who knows you, "what do you see in me that I am not seeing?" The full audit lives on the Flourish page.

The well-known tests, ranked honestly

Popularity and scientific weight are different things. Take any of these you enjoy, and hold the results with matching confidence.

Big Five (OCEAN)

The model psychologists actually use: openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, neuroticism. This version is free and open source. If you take one formal personality test, take this one.

16Personalities (MBTI-style)

Enjoyable, well written, and wildly popular. Treat the four letters as shared vocabulary rather than measurement; the science underneath is thin, and results often change on retake. The same caution goes for DISC, which circulates in corporate trainings.

Helen Fisher's temperament test

A relationships lens from a real anthropologist: explorer, builder, director, negotiator. Popular science, and a good conversation starter with a partner.

The 7 Habits Benchmark

FranklinCovey's own assessment of how you apply the habits at work: responsibility, vision, priorities, renewal. Professionally oriented.

Already running here: the Valued Living method

Your weekly sliders, how much a role matters against how consistently you lived it, are the working core of the Valued Living Questionnaire (Wilson et al., 2010), the standard instrument for values-action alignment. Your alignment chart is that instrument, applied weekly.

Whatever any instrument tells you, it is material for reflection, never a verdict about who you are. Bring one insight from this page into this week's session.

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